Pat Lam Helping Players to Tackle their Feelings
“People come down to the Sportsground and look at our bench. It’s filled with a management team that stretches the length of the dugout and beyond. They ask what role each person fulfils. I agree with them in saying that if I was just coaching a rugby team, you wouldn’t need all those people. In fact all you’d require is the head coach and a couple of assistants.
But, you see, it’s not just about the rugby…”
When Pat Lam first toyed with the idea of donning a tracksuit and dishing out instruction, he approached Ian McGeechan his coach at Northampton, for some advice. The British and Irish Lions legend posed a simple question to his captain: “Pat, why do you want to coach?”
On Tuesday night the former Samoan international was speaking at the Connacht Rugby Public Discussion in the G Hotel, as part of IRUPA’s Tackle Your Feelings campaign, in partnership with Zurich. The product of several years of research, IRUPA and Zurich’s initiative has given professional players the platform to engage and address their mental well-being.
Lam would have been particularly impressed by the maturity of one of his own charges as he articulated the difficulties he faced as a youngster growing up in New Zealand. Jake Heenan spoke candidly about losing his way as a teenager including bouts of anti-social behaviour that ultimately led to him being kicked out of his home.
While rugby offered the former captain of the All Blacks’ U-20 side a pathway out of trouble, Lam presented the 24-year-old with an opportunity to leave his past behind and join an intriguing project in the west of Ireland. Having joined in May 2013, Heenan can now set his sights on wearing the green of his adopted home on the international stage having qualified earlier this year.
Heenan was joined on the panel by Dr. Eddie Murphy of RTÉ’s Operation Transformation, Connacht’s most capped player, Michael Swift, and Cathal Sheridan, the former Munster scrum half who has struggled with injury throughout his career.
“I try to ensure that any of my teams have all the tools required to survive and thrive both on the field of play and off it,” Lam continued.
“Often it is family that equips you with those tools and the best families are created by the best environments. I have tried to create something similar at Connacht. Many would agree that our team spirit is our biggest strength.”
In an effort to help foster that familial mentality, Lam has sought to have his players engage on a more wholesome level. While they think little of sweating blood for each other on match days, the tendency is for players to resile in their own bubble once the day’s work is complete. Lam has therefore reintroduced an old Connacht tradition whereby a player offers their own personal story to the group. This week it was the turn of Heenan.
Heenan’s story in particular will resonate with many young people throughout the country. Although he never suffered from any mental health condition, the player acknowledged his difficulties and demonstrated tremendous courage in coming forward from a world that espouses the macho ideal of mental and physical toughness.
“The main feeling I had through this was fear, fear of the unknown, and anger, which was a direct result of being afraid.
“I think it’s important that everyone recognises that we all have our own problems and issues,” Heenan said.
It would appear then that, alongside the work of IRUPA, Pat Lam is helping people to realise their true potential.
“I see young people enter the game as rugby players, but I see them exit as better people.
“That’s the reason why I want to coach.”Back to News